Ruth Landstrom,Ph.D.                                                                                                                         

Spring 2010                                                     Volume 4, Number 2
When we think of goals, we often think of edgy action words, like "drive" or "achieve," "success" or "pressure."  Not relaxation.  But think again....

Relax!  Set Some Goals!
Every day we need to make many choices, and these choices can be excruciating without some sense of where we're going.  Without clear goals, each decision becomes an invitation for waffling.  Here or there?  Now or later?  Like my cat, who has to stop and consider every time we hold the door open for her, we hem and haw, uncertain whether to stay in or go out. 
A goal, in one fell swoop, can make a slew of choices easy and straightforward.  With our direction set, we can relax!  Paradoxically, we can focus more readily on what is happening now: when know the directions by heart, we can pay attention to the road.  We don't need to second-guess ourselves or dissipate our attention wondering whether we should be someplace else. 
What are your most cherished goals?  What steps can you settle into today?    
"The proper role of goals is to liberate us, so that we can enjoy the here and now.  ...  The primary purpose of having a goal -- a future purpose -- is to enhance enjoyment of the present."
Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D., Happier (McGraw-Hill, 2007), p. 70. 

Events & Services     

Mindfulness in Action

 A relaxing Saturday workshop    
Please join me for an afternoon exploring mindfulness practices
and goal-directed action

May 15, 2010  3:00 - 5:00 p.m.  Seligmann Homestead, Sugar Loaf, New York  

$25 admission; all proceeds will benefit Orange County Citizens Foundation.

Special Guest Millie Goodridge, Certified Yoga Teacher, will offer a few minutes of mindful movement, to relax the body and quiet the mind.  Wear comfortable clothes.  No yoga mat or previous experience required. 

Make it a daytrip to Sugar Loaf!

To reserve a space, please call or email Ruth at 845-986-7686 or


Coaching and psychotherapy

I am available for  both coaching and psychotherapy in Warwick, NY and New York City.   Coaching is also possible by phone. 

Call 845-986-7686 or 212-721-0499, or email me at to set up a free consultation.

 Lunchtime Meditation

Please join me in my Warwick office (28 Railroad Avenue, #4C) on Thursdays from 12:30 to 1:00, for lunchtime meditation.   




I'd love to hear from you!  Please e-mail me your comments, questions and requests at